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What Can Families Do To Fight Hate Violence and Intolerance?

From the Spring 2002 Newsletter

Compiled from resources developed by Teaching Tolerance and the Institute for Peace and Justice

 

  • Invite someone of a different background to join your family for a meal or holiday.

  • Give a multicultural doll, toy or game as a gift.

  • Assess the cultural diversity reflected in your home's artwork, music and literature.  Add something new.

  • Don't buy playthings that promote or glorify violence.

  • Discuss TV programming with your children; which programs have significant numbers of minority actors, are people of color presented in stereotypic ways, etc.

  • Establish a high "comfort level" for open dialogue about social issues.  Let your children know that no subject is taboo.

  • Talk with your family about current events, especially those with racial implications.

  • Bookmark equity and diversity web sites on your home computer and visit them often.

  • Patronize stores and select professionals (doctors, attorneys, financial advisors, etc.) who reflect a different racial or ethnic background from yours.

  • Take the family to an ethnic restaurant.  Learn about more than just the food by talking with the servers or proprietors.

  • Observe holidays and cultural events (for example, Kwanza, Cinco de Mayo, and Chanukah) that reflect diverse peoples and cultures.

  • Involve all members of the family in deciding which organizations to support with charitable gifts.

  • Gather information about local volunteer opportunities and let your children select projects for family participation.

  • Play "action hero" with your children.  Are the heroes all aggressive males?  Help your children see the heroic qualities in those whose contributions often go unrecognized (e.g., nurses, bridge builders, volunteers in homeless shelters).

  • Affirm your children's curiosity about race and ethnicity.  Point out that people come in many shades.

  • Help young children make an illustrated list of what friends do or what friendship means.

  • Read books with multicultural and tolerance themes to your children.  See IPJ's book list.

  • Examine the "diversity profile" for your children's friends.  Expand the circle by helping your children develop new relationships.

  • Enroll your children in schools, daycare centers, after-school programs and camps that reflect and celebrate differences.

  • Participate in a Big Brother or Big Sister program.

  • Live in an integrated and economically diverse neighborhood.

  • Include children in discussions about voting decisions, especially in evaluating candidates' stance and activities against racism.

  • Writer letters to the editor whenever there is a hate-violence incident.  Invite comments from your children on what to say and/or invite them to sign the letter with you.

  • Add your voice publicly to those fighting against violence and intolerance by attending school board meetings, city council hearings, court procedures, vigils, etc.  At times it may be appropriate for children to participate.